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life always feels better when you are concentrating on other people's problems rather than facing your own.

but life IS better when you are facing your own problems instead of concentrating on the problems other people have that really don't concern you at all.


i need to remind myself of that a lot.


also: have you ever noticed that the BEST grandparent/grandchild/child relationships work when the grandparents don't live next door?

because we lived far away from my grandparents, my parents were able to raise me the way THEY wanted to (it was their turn, it was their god given right, i was born to them). using what they had learned from their parents that was good, and omitting what they had learned from their parents that was bad. i feel like that was a really healthy way for me to be brought up.

i never, ever saw my parents being belittled or criticized by my grandparents, and i ALWAYS knew that my parent's say was the LAST. grandma and grandpa were NOT in charge- they were just awesome friends who spoiled me to death and i love them better for it.

R E S P E C T

i'm just interested in how family dynamics come into play when grandchildren see grandparents parenting their children (instead of treating them like the adults that they are) and their children's children. i think it's unhealthy.

what are your thoughts?


ps. i am NOT saying that i wouldn't miss being away from my parents or my in laws if we did live far away, or that i wouldn't miss all my siblins and inlawsiblins and their kids and family, i think i really would- but i AM saying i would really really really really like it if we lived in our own home in another state.
someday.
WHICH DOES NOT MEAN I AM UNGRATEFUL TO BE HERE CLOSE TO IN LAWS AND FAMILY AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE. i am only sharing what i have learned/think
thank you.